Secondary trauma. It’s a real thing and it is radical in that it changes you. If you have been exposed to the trauma of another over a long period of time, such as a RAD child, then you know. You are changed. Recognizing the ways in which you have changed — your reactions, your outlook, your perceptions, your dreams, your relationships — is the first step in accepting the new you. Would you change the past? Unlikely. That being the case, you and I need to radically accept ourselves and find the good in the person that has emerged from caring deeply and persistantly.
It’s okay. Dare to discover that you are caring and good and self-aware. You are becoming. And love is at the reigns.
Here’s a great article on Secondary Trauma, if you’d like to read more.