Besides being a writer, I am a wife and a mom. I birthed a beautiful daughter eight years before my husband and I decided to build our family through adoption. That decision took our family unit down a path that opened our eyes to struggles we never imagined children had to endure; and we embarked on the journey to healing together.
Along the way to understanding trauma and Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), our excellent therapist introduced us to Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), which is comprised by a series of skills designed to enhance the ability to cope with difficult thoughts or circumstances. One of those skills is Radical Acceptance. To radically accept something that we cannot change is a call to surrender. In turn, that surrender, positions us to respond in a way that moves us forward as people who love others and ourselves.
And what of hope? As a Christian, I attempt to leave lots of room in my life-house both for moment-by-moment divine invasion, as well as need-specific interventions. But predicting the appearance, timing, or pathways to answers is not my business; rather, my business is to surrender every moment to His unfailing promise to do “all things for my good.”
This blog is directed to adoptive parents and others who understand we must find the place of surrender so that children my also do so. Life is too short to fight for what we think “must be” in order to find joy.